Saturday, April 12, 2014

Attitudinally Incompatible – Is that you or the society?



Born and brought up in a well-to-do and not so conservative family with some great friends around all the time, I hardly imagined that vitiligo could ever act in my life at any point of time in any way. My confidence, social and professional life not even a bit was touched on by this. I loved myself and my life and that is even today. I never associated myself with any vitiligo groups or awareness platforms, and infact always distanced myself from people sharing their experiences and extending their sympathies.
 
However, I stumbled upon some startling thought processes amongst us with regards to Vitiligo. Most shockingly it was the young, so called broad-minded, “cool”, educated and the well placed generation that actually made me retract and think where are we really standing today. It was only after  this that I decided to be more vocal about it.
Discrimination against vitiligo affected people unfortunately does exist as a bitter truth, but predominantly in the less privileged section of the society. But what was even more shocking is those who are well-aware, well-educated are actually the ones ducking from it.  That could either be in the form of denial to acceptance of the way they are, shying from it, ignoring it under the pretext of busy life and being less vocal about vitiligo.
Just putting down my observations here, but I find that boys are more prone to inferiority complex than girls. They find it more difficult than girls to come to terms with reality. They shy off from what the situation demands.  
Well, this is the case with those affected with vitiligo. I see that they are struggling for self-acceptance. What about the rest of the society that thinks it has come a long way and shed behind days of blind beliefs and believes that today’s society is with modern views. Well, then you need an introspection ! Because the truth is you don’t bestow the status of a normal person to a vitiligo affected person till date. I have seen several examples supporting this.  
I recently attended a vitiligo awareness event wherein a doctor was invited to address the gathering. She confessed that inspite of being a doctor who knows its just an aesthetic skin disorder with no health implications, and although she thought she was open minded, she realized that day that she wasn’t. She would not have probably allowed her son to marry a vitligo affected girl till the day she attended that event. The event served as an eye-opener to her and that she needs to reset her thoughts towards vitiligo.
My dear friends, I urge one and all to break this mindset. I want you to think are you really open-minded? Do you really deserve to be called a modern day society? Introspect...

2 comments:

  1. True ! Though, People understand the scientific view of vitiligo, they still don't have the courage to treat it as 'no big deal' ! Just because its visible and it looks different.
    The pic that you have chosen is just PERFECT. Given a choice, would you not chose the red apple placed in center ? Do you have ANY reason for not chosing the same ?
    Its just 'different' skin color. It absolutely does not affect one's health. But it does affect one's mind, due to the way it is treated in.
    And because of this narrow minded society, those affected with vitiligo tend to get together and unknowingly start developing a feeling that they are different and not like people next door.
    In context of marriage, the same society is able to accept diabetes, cancer, BP, even AIDS for that matter, and many more disorders ( though these affect your health badly). Just because, people are vocal about these and they are quite common.
    They would even chose a partner who looks gr8, but, with whom they cant get along well, a partner who is not loyal to them,or a partner who does not complement them in any way.
    Why cant people accept vitiligo, even after it being such a minor thing !
    Thanks Anita for making people understand the fact !

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    1. Thanks Dhanashree for supporting my views. Please share it with your network and help me spread the word.
      I am creating a platform here where one can be vocal, lose all inhibitions and embrace the goodness around.

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